So, I got a frantic text from the mom of the 5yr old girl that I used to babysit. She is saying that the 9yr old boy I babysat taught her daughter how to french kiss, and they did it at my house sometime over the summer. It came up because her daughter was trying to kiss a little boy, and the boy told on her, so there was a discussion on appropriate behavior.
Of course my heart kind of dropped. There was very, very little time when the two of them would have been alone together, but it did happen sometimes. Anyway, with a little investigation on my part, and the boy’s mother’s part, it turns out that nothing really happened. Thank goodness! What happened was the girl jumped on him and licked him, he said, ‘eww are you trying to french kiss me or something!?’, and then a discussion of what French kissing is was had between them. Still not the most appropriate thing to happen, but way better than actual physical contact!
And why would I believe him over her, you ask? Well, for one I know this boy well. Like, really well. Like, we have been family friends for a handful of years. We spend holidays with them, vacation with them, there were times in the summer when we would be together every day for 3 weeks straight including weekends. I just don’t think he is at the point of being interested in touching girls. I really really don’t see that happening for another couple years. Also, the little girl lies all the time. She tells big lies, little lies, lies with a grain of truth in them so they seem plausible, and total bald faced unbelievable batshit crazy lies as well. And she has bad boundaries. She wants to hug and kiss other kids all the time, her parents actually encourage it, I’ve seen them. This exact situation is one reason I discourage Ali from hugging and kissing other people. Anyway…
Now the problem is, how do I tell her mom she’s lying? We had a similar issue last year where the little girl lied about the boy chasing her around with a knife, and it was hard convincing her it was false even then, when it was preposterous. I guess just be matter of fact about it and drop it. Crazy kid!