Oh man, I think it’s been over a month since I’ve written anything! I’m going to blame school, it’s been really taking up every spare second I have. I always used to kind of roll my eyes when professors said you need to spend 2 hours a week studying outside class for each hour you spend in class, now it’s probably even more than that. Good thing it’s actually interesting to me, or I’d never make it.
But school talk is boring, no one wants to hear about fluid and electrolyte balance, what you want to hear about is our brand new foster kids we got last week! Yup, we got THE CALL on Wednesday afternoon and picked up a 12 month old and a 2 year old that evening. There was another sibling who was 3, and we just couldn’t take him too. I felt really bad about saying no to him, but it ended up being the right thing since the kid ended up in 3 different foster homes in 24 hours since he was so violent with other kids.
There’s so much to say about suddenly becoming a family of 5, but it can be mostly summed up by saying it’s effing crazy. Personally, I’m loving it. Jen and Ali on the other hand, they are both struggling pretty hard with adding more people to the mix. It will get better, but right now is difficult. Ali has turned into a jealous, possessive maniac who screams and cries and stomps her foot every time the older boy touches a toy or sits on my lap. Jen is alternating between crying fits and totally checking out and zoning out on her phone. I said something to her about it tonight. It wasn’t pretty. The force of her defensiveness let me know that she knows I’m right though, so she will at least pretend to get it together now. Ahh, marriage. It’s not for the faint of heart!
But back to the boys… They are both just little dream boats. They eat, they sleep, they listen. I’m telling you, neglect really has an upside to it. Just kidding, of course. I’ll take my spoiled little queen any day. Ali and the 2 year old, K, are only 3 months apart but they are worlds apart in so many ways.
Look how tiny he is next to her! Aside from the obvious physical differences, the academic differences have really struck me. It’s really put into focus for me just how far behind a disadvantaged kid is right at the starting point with school. I know everyone here in my social bubble has different opinions and approaches with lots of different hot button parenting topics, but I bet we all incorporate academic stuff into our routine interactions without even realizing it. I mean, this poor little dude knows zero colors or numbers, can’t name one single animal in the picture books or come up with the sounds they make, he has no idea what to do with crayons or play dough or puzzles. On the other hand, he is well behaved and happy and polite, it’s obvious that someone loves him and has taken care of him. Hopefully that someone is his dad, since he surfaced on Friday and apparently wants to take K. If all goes well with whatever the vetting process is, little dude will go back to his family this week. I’m pretty happy for him, I hope he’s going to a good place where people love and want him.
The baby. Can you call a 12 month old a baby still? At 12 months Ali was definitely not a baby anymore, she was full on toddler. This 12 month old is still very baby like, so we will go with baby for now. The boys’ social worker has had emergencies pop up so we haven’t met yet to talk about their situation or their medical records, which is weird and frustrating, but I can tell you that there are some major delays in a few areas. I can also tell you that he has this skinny limbs big abdomen thing going on like a starving kid. You would be amazed at the difference that 5 days of stuffing him with food and giving him tons of cuddles and interaction have done. This little guy will break our hearts if he goes back, I can tell that already. At this very early point, it’s looking like a long term, possible termination situation. But you never know what people will do, right?
It’s killing me to not post pictures of the dudes, but I can’t. So instead, here’s a funny pic of Ali